It’s Dadurday!
Who is this for?
Most divorcing mothers are not dangerous.
Some are.
Dadurday is a newsletter for the imperfect dads divorcing the mothers who are or might be dangerous.
Dadurday is necessarily a very one-sided newsletter.
There is a world of support and understanding out there for people involved in divorces where both divorcing partners are basically sane individuals, who, while even at times hating one another, might be able to avoid trial, might be able to negotiate out of court, might be able to use a mediator, might be able to do a quickie divorce, might be able to split the kids 50/50, might be able to celebrate their children together even as they decouple.
If you might be able to do any of that, this newsletter is really not for you.
This is a newsletter for the 1% of men who married the 1% of women who might have personality disorders. I’m not saying my ex does; I’m not saying your ex does; I am not a psychiatrist.
Neither are most of the 1% of men who married the 1% of women who might have personality disorders.
This newsletter is not for the 99% of divorcing men who realllllly don’t get along with thier ex.
It’s for the other guy, the 1 in 100. You know who you are because you know you are not in discomfort or anxiety or stress. You are in Danger.
Don’t mistake Dadurday for speaking about divorce in general. It’s not. Most Divorces are uncomfortable and anxiety inducing and expensive and stressful. Only some are dangerous.
Dadurday Takes a hard one-sided perspective because the 1% exist
Hardly any women don’t love their children dearly. But in this newsletter, there will not be the assumption that your wife loves your children dearly, because she might not, based on things she’s said and things she’s done.
Most divorcing couples want what’s best for their kids. But in this newsletter, there will never be that assumption when it comes to your children, because she might not want what’s best for them, based on things she’s said and things she’s done.
If this resonates so far, I can tell you this about your own divorce:
No matter what gets thrown at you, the way forward is through.
On the other side of your divorce is a better man, a better father, and a better family for your children.
It’s going to take 5 years.
I’m rolling into year 4 closer to my children than I ever was before the divorce, stronger than I ever knew I could be, and finally, with a growing sense of safety. I am at a point of having gratitude for the experience because of the invaluable lessons I’ve learned.
Even though I’ve lost nearly every single point of contention in this divorce, even though it’s pushed me to the brink, through homelessness, through traumatic police encounters, into a brutal humility in the face of a system that has no protection against psychopathic behavior from mothers, the years since this began have been the best years of my life so far.
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